Thursday, October 16, 2008

Love intercedes: Day 16

The Love Dare: Day 16
Beloved, I pray that in all respects you may prosper and be in good health, just as your soul prospers. --3 John 2

"Begin praying today for your spouse's heart. Pray for three specific areas where you desire for God to work in your spouse's life and in your marriage." (The Love Dare, p. 79)

Wednesday, October 15, 2008

Love is Honorable: Day 15

The Love Dare: Day 15
Live with your wives in an understanding way. . . and show her honor as a fellow heir of the grace of life. --1 Peter 3:7

"Choose a way to show honor and respect to your spouse that is above your normal routine. It may be holding the door for her. It might be putting his clothes away for him. It may be the way you listen and speak in your communication. Show your mate that he or she is highly esteemed in your eyes." (The Love Dare, p. 74)

Changing Again. . .

Oh my goodness! I'm having way too much fun learning how to use Second Life! I just wish I could change my appearance as easily in real life. In an attempt to keep you all up to speed, here's my new look for today.

And here's the full shot:

What do you think??

Tuesday, October 14, 2008

Love Takes Delight: Day 14

The Love Dare: Day 14
Enjoy life with the wife you love all the days of your fleeting life. --Ecclesiates 9:9 (HCSB)

"Purposefully neglect an activity you would normally do so you can spend quality time with your spouse. Do something he or she would love to do or a project they'd really like to work on. Just be together." (The Love Dare, p. 69)

Monday, October 13, 2008

Love fights fair: Day 13

The Love Dare: Day 13
If a house is divided against itself, that house will not be able to stand. --Mark 3:25

"Talk with your spouse about establishing healthy rules of engagement. If your mate is not ready for this, then write out your own personal rules to "fight" by. Resolve to abide by them when the next disagreement occurs." (The Love Dare, p. 64)

Sunday, October 12, 2008

Love Lets the Other Win: Day 12

The Love Dare: Day 12
Do not merely look our for you own personal interests, but also for the interest of others. --Philippians 2:4

"Demonstrate love by willingly choosing to give in to an area of disagreement between you and your spouse. Tell them you are putting their preference first." (The Love Dare, p. 59)

Saturday, October 11, 2008

Love cherishes: Day 11

The Love Dare: Day 11
Husbands ought also to love their own wives as their own bodies. --Ephesians 5:28

"What need does your spouse have that you could meet today? Can you run an errand? give a back rum or foot massage? Is there housework you could help with? Choose a gesture that says, 'I cherish you' and do it with a smile." (The Love Dare, p. 54)

Friday, October 10, 2008

Virtual Me!



As some of you know I've been part of a class at FBU learning to use Second Life in the classroom. I'm still in the very beginning stages (learning to walk and not bump into walls!), but I thought you might like to take a look at my virtual self. So what do you think?

I just wish you could get the full effect of my hair, which is pink. long and a little "wild." Yes, I am having fun with my virtual self! Who says you can be younger and thinner???

Love is Unconditional: Day 10

The Love Dare: Day 10
God demonstrates His own love toward us, in that while we were yet sinners, Christ died for us. --Romans 5:8

"Do something out of the ordinary today for your spouse--something that proves (to you and to them) that your love is based on your choice and nothing else. Wash her car. Clean the kitchen. Buy his favorite dessert. Fold the laundry. Demonstrate love to them for the sheer joy of being their partner in marriage." (The Love Dare, p. 49)

Thursday, October 9, 2008

Love Makes Good Impressions: Day 9

The Love Dare: Day 9
Greet one another with a kiss of love. --1 Peter 5:14

"Think of a specific way you'd like to greet your spouse today. Do it with a smile and with enthusiasm. then determine to change your greeting to reflect your love for them." (The Love Dare, p. 44)

Wednesday, October 8, 2008

Love is Not Jealous: Day 8

The Love Dare: Day 8
Love is as strong as death, its jealousy unyielding as the grave. It burns like blazing fire. --Song of Solomon 8:6 (NIV)

"Determine to become your spouse's biggest fan and to reject any thoughts of jealousy. To help you set your heart on your spouse and focus on their achievements, take yesterday's list of negative attributes and discreetly burn it. Then share with your spouse how glad you are about a success he or she recently enjoyed." (The Love Dare, p. 39)

Tuesday, October 7, 2008

Love Believes the Best: Day 7

The Love Dare: Day 7
[Love] believes all things, hopes all things. --1 Corinthians 13:7

"For today's dare, get two sheets of paper. On the first one, spend a few minutes writing out positive things about your spouse. Then do the same with negative things on the second sheet. Place both sheets in a secret place for another day. There is a different purpose and plan for each. At some point during the remainder of the day, pick a positive attribute from the first list and than you spouse for having this characteristic." (The Love Dare, p. 34)

Monday, October 6, 2008

Love is Not Irritable: Day 6

The Love Dare: Day 6
He who is slow to anger is better than the mighty, and he who rules his spirit, than he who captures a city. --Proverbs 16:32

"Choose today to react to tough circumstances in your marriage in loving ways instead of with irritation. Begin by making a list below of areas where you need to add margin to your schedule. then list any wrong motivations that you need to release from your life." (The Love Dare, p. 29)

Sunday, October 5, 2008

Love is Not Rude: Day 5

The Love Dare: Day 5
He who blesses his friend with a loud voice early in the morning, it will be reckoned a curse to him.--Proverbs 27:14

"Ask your spouse to tell you three things that cause him or her to be uncomfortable or irritated with you. You must do so without attacking them or justifying your behavior. This is from their perspective only." (The Love Dare, p. 24)

Saturday, October 4, 2008

Love is thoughtful : Day 4

The Love Dare: Day 4
How precious also are Your thoughts to me. . . How vast is the sum of them! If I should count them, they would outnumber the sand.--Psalm 139:17-18

"Contact your spouse sometime during the business of the day. Have no agenda other than asking how he or she is doing and if there is anything you could do for them." (The Love Dare, p. 17)

Friday, October 3, 2008

Payton: a (p)update

Today we headed to the specialist for Payton to get an ultrasound


Payton was excited to see the "new" surroundings and meet the other dogs at least at first.

Bill and Sammie did not enjoy the long wait.

Payton was happy to be finished with the ultrasound.

My hubby was not as happy since the utrasound cost $300

We headed back to our regular vet for the news/results from the test. The good news is there was no sign of any mass. The bad news, it looks like Payton has some bleeding (she was shaved on her underside for the ultrasound). Her platelets are dangerously low and spontaneous bleeding is one of the things to worry about.

Here's Sammie with Payton in the waiting room. Notice how Payton is hiding behind the exam table.

Right now we're waiting on some blood work which was sent out. The vet suspects that Payton has severe pancreatitus coupled with an auto-immune disease. This isn't good, folks. And the next few days are critical. We have her at home and are giving her a variety of medications. If any more bleeding happens, she'll have to go into the doggie ER in St. Louis.

Here's Payton at home. She likes it here much better!!

Please, please, please continue to pray for my baby girl (and that's exactly what she is). We're trusting God to do a mighty work and heal her completely. Thanks in advance for your prayers. I love y'all bunches and really covet your prayers!

Praying for my pup,
~Cheryl

Love is Not Selfish: Day 3

The Love Dare: Day 3
Be devoted to one another in brotherly love; give preference to one another in honor--Romans 12:10

"Whatever you put your time, energy, and money into will become more important to you. It's hard to care for something you are not investing in. Along with restraining from negative comments, buy your spouse something that says, 'I was thinking of you today.'" (The Love Dare, p. 14)

Thursday, October 2, 2008

We interupt this "Love Dare" with an urgent prayer request

Hello Bloggy Peeps,

I know this might seem insignificant to you, but it's a major thing for me. My pup, Payton who you can see pictured with me is critically ill. She's in the doggie hospital as I type this. We're not quite sure what the core issue is, and I won't bore you with all the specifics, but it looks like she has leukemia, complicated by severe pancreatitus and is not doing well. We are bringing her home to be with us tonight--to make her comfortable. The next 24-48 hours will be critical for her.

As some of you know, even though Payton is 4 years old, she's still my baby. I love her like one of my own kids. So please keep her in prayer over the next few days, okay.

Also, as if to add to all this Sammie is very sick too. Pneumonia we think. So, please keep her in your prayers too.

Regardless of the circumstances, I know that God is in control. I'm trying to cling to Him in this time of turmoil in our lives. Guess I could use some prayer too.

Thanks bunches,
~Cheryl

Love is Kind: Day 2

The Love Dare: Day 2
Be kind to one another, tender-hearted, forgiving each other, just as God in Christ also has forgiven you.--Ephesians 4:32

"In addition to saying nothing negative to your spouse again today, do at least one unexpected gesture as an act of kindness." (The Love Dare, p. 9)

Wednesday, October 1, 2008

Love is Patient: Day 1

The Love Dare: Day 1
Be completely humble and gentle; be patient, bearing with one another in love--Ephensians 4:2 (NIV)

"The first part of this dare is fairly simple. Although love is communicated in a number of ways, our words often reflect the condition of our heart. For the next day, resolve to demonstrate patience and to say nothing negative to your spouse at all. If the temptation arises, choose not to say anything. It's better to hold your tongue than to say something you'll regret." (The Love Dare, p. 4)

Tuesday, September 30, 2008

The Love Dare

I went to see Fireproof Saturday with my BFF, Melissa. Oh my!! It was really something. I laughed and cried and laughed and cried some more. I don't think I've been on that much of an emotional journey in a two hour period in a long time.

One of the things that goes along with the movie is a book called "The Love Dare." Listen Siestas I think that every marriage could benefit from doing this.

So, I've bought the book. The next step is to simply read and do it. How about the rest of you? Anyone game? Check back tomorrow for the specifics. I'll post one "dare" each day.

So, I dare you to try it!

Daring to love,
~Cheryl

Below is a clip that explains the book better.

The Love Dare from Mike Stecker on Vimeo.

Monday, September 29, 2008

A Very Personal Miracle!

Last week I had to give a presentation to the faculty and administration at FBU about my sabbatical research. Now usually I'm not very nervous about speaking in front of people. I'm actually pretty good at public speaking. I was on a full ride scholarship for my speaking ability as an undergraduate and participated on a speech team that national ranked in the top three all four years. My junior year I quarterfinaled at the collegiate national tournament in persuasive speaking.

I say all this not to "toot my horn" but to put things in context for you. You see I found myself becoming very, very nervous before my sabbatical presentation. So nervous that I started to feel a full blown panic attack and the beginnings of a nasty migraine. Typically I would have simply tried to intervene with medication, but made a different choice this time.

Instead, I decided to totally surrender myself to the Holy Spirit and let Him "heal" me so to speak. So when I found my body reacting (the symptoms of the panic attack/migraine coming on) I managed to sneak back to my office for just a couple of minutes between classes. I went facedown and started to pray. I begged Him to intervene. As I was praying I did what I felt directed to do which was work on my breathing and challenge the negative thinking. As I totally surrendered every part of me and thought to the Holy Spirit, I could physically feel His presence penetrate every nook and cranny of my body. I'm afraid this is the point where language doesn't quite do justice to what I experienced.

In a brief moment I felt the symptoms simply leave my body. Poof!! They were gone and replaced by a sense of calm and well being that surpasses understanding.

Miraculously, I did NOT have a panic attack or a migraine. As I walked out of my office I was feeling fantastic! This is nothing short of amazing. Given how I was feeling prior to praying, I was surely on my way to an ER visit.

He is the real deal, folks. And while I know many of you already know this, I felt compelled to share this very personal experience with you.

While none of this may seem very significant to you, let me tell you it was an eye-opening, pivotal point in my life, one I'm not soon to forget.

So how about it? Are you willing to totally surrender to Him? He can do amazing things, after all I'm a living, breathing testament to that. Just remember the choice is yours.

In love with my Savior,
~Cheryl

Thursday, September 25, 2008

The Disease to Please

Image clipped from the following link

In a recent post on People Pleasing Pastors, Craig Groeschel lists four characteristics:

  • People pleasing pastors take most criticism personally. Any suggestion feels like a personal attack. We become overly defensive and resentful of even mild corrections.
  • People pleasing pastors have an extraordinary fear of rejection. If someone questions our motives, doesn’t like a sermon, or leaves our ministry, it can throw us into a depressed tailspin.
  • People pleasing pastors find it hard to express their feelings. Because we have to “please people,” we don’t feel safe expressing our true feelings and needs.
  • People pleasing pastors have a hard time saying “no.” Because we want to make people happy. We often over-commit. Although we are outwardly agreeable, we are often inwardly resentful.
He says, "These verses capture the heart of the problem: But because of the Pharisees they would not confess their faith for fear they would be put out of the synagogue; for they loved praise from men more than praise from God. John 12:42-43"

Although I'm not a Pastor, I admit it this one smacked me in the face big time. How often have I been guilty of doing exactly the same things?

He ends by stating, "I want to ask, 'What will God think?' more often than I ask, 'What will they think?'”

I don't know about you, but I'm no longer willing to be a people pleaser, especially when pleasing others, keeps me from pleasing God.

My intention's set. And I'm asking, no I'm begging the LORD to cure me of this Disease to Please.

How about you??

Fireproof the Movie

Check this one out, folks. It sounds like a winner!








We won the Great St. Louis Balloon Race!

We won! Yes folks. good ole FBU won the Great St. Louis (Forest Park) Balloon Race. Out of 65 entries we came in #1. If you haven't ever had the chance to see a balloon race, well you're missing out on something special.

#1 FBU
#2 Citi Corp.
#3 Pepsi.

Yup, you gotta love it.

Nothing else. Just wanted to share the good news!! Woo Hoo! Go FBU!!!

Much love,
~Cheryl